This post was featured on “Freshly Pressed” on wordpress.com‘s main website on Nov 15th/16th 2010.
It’s my last year as a 20-something. No, I’m not dreading the 30s. I am quite excited about how life is shaping up! In fact, the year I hit 30, will also be the landmark year of me getting married. And getting married marks the end of childhood. Yea, for an Indian girl, this seems to be rather late to end the tomfoolery, but I think it’s the right age for me!
Anyhow, this post is more about what I was at 2o and what I am at 29! My birthday post was more about how I feel at 29. But this post documents the transition.
1. I always had older friends when I was 20, 21, 22…I had friends who were years older than me. 29-30 were the average ages that I was friends with. And now…well, I AM the older friend to a 20-21-year old! When I look at the birth dates of some of my new friends, I get a heart-attack! I met someone who was born in 1988 recently and I am really surprised, but I totally enjoyed hanging out with him!
I still have friends who are way older 🙂 Just that they’re now hitting their 40s and some, even their 50s! I love it.
2. I still don’t feel old or my age or like time is running out. But when I look at my dad, who suddenly looks so much older than he did when I was 21 (which is natural, he’s 60!), I feel like a lot of time has passed. I, who laughed at family attachments, concerns, bonds, etc. am now trying to make these stronger. Even working towards reconnecting consciously, putting in effort and making it a point that my family knows that I love them and care for them.
3. I could really chug my drinks at 20, and even more at 25. But now at 29, wow! I simply can’t. I feel sick and really really gross the next day. I now realise that my body is vulnerable and I cannot torture it the way I used to. I treat my body with respect. Currently, I am off booze.
4. At 20 and even at 25, I could eat up a 12-slice pizza while watching a movie and still not put on any weight! At 29, I eat a slice of pizza after a great amount of deliberation followed by an even greater amount of guilt.
5. When I completed my Masters in Social Work (TISS, Mumbai) in 2005, I was 24 years old. I felt powerful, energetic, confident that I could change the world, make a difference, help people. Now, in 2010, after having worked in the development sector for 5 years, I have realised that my job is just a job…it puts food on my table. And the biggest learning has been…I CANNOT help anyone and if I just about help myself, I’ll do good. This is not selfishness or cynicism, mind you. It is just something I have learned. Call it a spiritual lesson. At 25, I saw life as being full of injustices…and injustices that I needed to set right. I saw the world in black or white. Today, I am willing to make space for the grays. My principles were so rigid that I judged people (though I thought I was telling the truth). Today, I am a little more accepting of the grays and can give space to people who’ve not had the same exposure as I.
6. I spent my 20s fighting with God, hating her/him. I didn’t need G.O.D. to fulfill my dreams and achieve my goals. Also, feminism taught me that religion is patriarchal. As time passed, I failed at many things. I realised I was not good at the “real living” that I aspired for. And then one day, Roberto said to me, “Give God one last chance.” That line changed my life. At 29, I don’t need religion. But I need God. I need God in everything I do. God is my crutch and my elixir. Better than alcohol or drugs, right?
7. At 20, love was all about romance, heart skipping a beat, candle-light dinner, knights and unicorns. As I went through life in my 20s, every man was a disappointment. Not because men are disappointing, but merely because I was expecting something that couldn’t last. When I was 26 or 27, I met a guy whose sales pitch to me was, “I am not a romantic guy. But I am stable, loyal and I really like you.” As time passed, I found myself discovering how I appreciate these qualities. I am glad I didn’t marry a romantic moron in my early 20s and wake up one day to find that I had nothing to say to him. But I invested in a 3-year long-distance relationship even though I was convinced that such relationships don’t last! HA!
8. In my early 20s, I always thought I’d take aging well. I wouldn’t care how I looked. Yet, at 28 when I got my first forehead line, I felt a pang. A huge pang. I didn’t buy expensive cosmetics to revert it, but I am careful with my anti-pimple cream and my sunscreen applications (ha ha!). I now realise, when you’re beautiful, you think you don’t care about it. But when you’re slightly less beautiful, you appreciate it more. I do care about the way I look and will most definitely continue to!
9. There were several people I called best friends in my early 20s. Barring one, none of them are in my life. I am glad that most of them have disappeared. But I cherish what I had with a few and keep in touch with them as acquaintances even now. Previously, all my best friends were those with whom I spent the maximum time. At 29, all my best friends live away from me. But we don’t need to speak everyday or hang out everyday. We’re just there for each other and it works…beautifully.
10. In my early 20s, I was very sure what I wanted from life. At 29, I am not at all sure about what I want to do. But I am enjoying the ride.
P.S. watch out for the next post which will list all the things which have remained the same in this decade.
Sijo Kuruvilla George
November 15, 2010
Very interesting and well written. Appreciated the thought conveyed in point 5 the most.
Anjana
November 15, 2010
As usual .. a great read Henri … I am sure you will able to use this gift to change lives , influence people and more than put food on the a table .. Roberto is a lucky man!!
Selvi
November 15, 2010
Very well written!..It makes me think of my transition.Agree with most of yours but do have my version to a few of them:)..but on a whole loved reading it as I am going to be 29 like in few days now:)
Jasica
November 15, 2010
Wow really love this
Swapnil
November 15, 2010
Good one!
Mubashira
November 15, 2010
Hey! this is the first time I read you…twas nice 🙂
Nino's Mum
November 15, 2010
‘In my early 20s, I was very sure what I wanted from life. At 29, I am not at all sure about what I want to do. But I am enjoying the ride.’
Might as well have been me 🙂 nice read.
Richa
November 15, 2010
Awesome post gurl, as usual…. Could relate so much to it, cause hv lived my life in similar way like dat…. Keep writing! Waitin for ur nxt post soon 🙂
Randy
November 15, 2010
Let me be one of the first to welcome you to the other side of 30. Do not be afraid – the 30’s are great. Trust me. I’m 34. When your time hits, come on in and relax.
5. From the other side of 30, I’ll remind you that your job is al…so part of your role in life, or your role in the universe. A big part of how you leave your mark. You don’t need me to tell you that. Keep learning, as you clearly are, but don’t completely give in to the grays!
7. I’ll stick up for the romantics.
10. I began to think that I was starting to learn what I wanted out of life when I hit 31. As I said, an early welcome to the club, darling.
Manisha
November 15, 2010
Hey baby,u have touched my heart..speechless…love u and happy to have u in my life as a friend..
Po
November 15, 2010
excellent read, H!
Double like this – “When I was 26 or 27, I met a guy whose sales pitch to me was, “I am not a romantic guy. But I am stable, loyal and I really like you.” As time passed, I found myself discovering how I appreciate these qualities. I am glad I didn’t marry a romantic moron in my early 20s and wake up one day to find that I had nothing to say to him.”
-Po.
asma47
November 15, 2010
Nice Post!
Sreenivas
November 15, 2010
Awesome ! Reflecting on life is one thing, structuring and writing well is another !
Revreese
November 15, 2010
Thank you for sharing this, I am nearly 28 and worrying about my life and time disappearing faster and faster every year..
lifeintheboomerlane
November 15, 2010
This is a lovely post, for so many reasons. You have a perspective on aging that some people need another 10 or 20 or 30 years to get. Each age has it’s own amazement. We just have to be in a state of gratitude to recognize it. I’m 63, and each year gets better.
sonal chopra
November 15, 2010
Wow! I can totally relate to you on each one of those points 🙂 I’m turning 29 this Jan and everything rings so true 🙂 It’s great to know even though our generation leads the online social life, our experiences bind us together. Great post and very well captured.
mct88
November 15, 2010
Great post. Congrats on freshly pressed. I’m in the early 20s but when I was in college I knew what was going to happen in life. Come the new relationship status all of that is thrown out the window and everything and anything is fair game to experience! 🙂
Hayidan's Intuition
November 16, 2010
Kool post!
toswingonthespiral
November 16, 2010
loved ur post.. could relate to it on many levels.. ive added u to my blog roll..
Matt
November 16, 2010
30 is no different from any other year you have accumulated. The only thing that is different is you have to wait another 10 years to celebrate a milestone birthday. It’s up to you to make your new year count more than the one before it.
LKD
November 16, 2010
I’m also 29 and looking forward to 30. Agree with a whole bunch of stuff you say here! Will subscribe so I can follow your journey.
Lorna
confusionhaizindagi
November 16, 2010
Ekta,
I turned 29 last month and I completely relate to your post…I have read alot of your previous post but this sure is one of the best…keep writing.
Cheers
Matou
Dunn
November 16, 2010
Nice entry. I feel the exact same way. Not scared, just interested.
Jahannumwala
November 16, 2010
Nice post damsel..
Mostly life seems like a lesson if we look objectively at it.. but Ghosh! a lot has to be forgotten and so many have to be forgiven to reach such a state where you can smile on your past and comment rather than brooding. It is great to see that you need GOD, not the religion…
And when someone needs God.. he/she cannot ignore AD, the master who has impacted my life and 100s of others.. try visiting him at http://agyaatdarshan.wordpress.com and see for yourself if reaching 30 would require anything from him. Needless to say.. you are a simple girl and your expressions coming from heart so beautifully have tempted me and I am going to shoot AD a question on “Aging.. ” umm… not sure what words I would use.. but I know when he will talk about it.. it will be Master’s piece.
– J
tiallarising
November 16, 2010
wow, nice post. 🙂 congrats on freshly pressed!
Shreya
November 16, 2010
Great post! I can totally relate to it 🙂 Good luck with the marriage and happy 30s!
Mitch Leuraner
November 16, 2010
You say all that now… and that’s what I thought when I was turning 30. But the REAL deal happens when you are about to turn 31! I was totally okay with being 30, but in a few short months, I’ll be OVER 30, and that is scary!
Jackie
November 16, 2010
You summed up my past decade pretty well (I just turned 30). 🙂
saurabhkundan
November 16, 2010
Henri,
You write beautifully and touch my heart. I am 23 and going through this transition phase which you have already completed and come out a winner I must say! I am yet to learn so much that you know about life, but reading this has already given me sort of a head start! *Smiles* Congratulations on having found love.
-Saurabh.
meryemh
November 16, 2010
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midnitechef
November 16, 2010
Thank you for sharing your journey with all of us! I am counting down the days until my 30th birthday this month and share some your feelings about life. For our generation, our 20’s are quite different I think than our older counterparts (those in late 30’s – 40’s), and our children are going to experience yet another dimension by the time they reach 20. Anywho… I wanted to say congrats on FP today, life is a gift, that is why it’s called the present!
Surekha
November 16, 2010
9,104 hit!
Hi Ekta,
Your “I AM ON WORDPRESS.COM’s “FRESHLY PRESSED” post on FB got me to read this blog and by god you have just summarized how i felt about things in my 20s ( I’ll join the 30s league next year 🙂 ).
Awesome write-up. I can’t agree more on (3) & (10) 😉
Best wishes!
Surekha
Miss Avocado
November 16, 2010
HI thanks for the insight. I am 20 and I sometimes wonder what I’ll be like in 5-10 years. It’s nice to know even though things change life can still be fun when your older. =)
check out my blog-http://ihaveahappyface.wordpress.com/
dearexgirlfriend
November 16, 2010
parts of each of your points resonated with me…but especially the last one (im 10 or so months from 30 myself).
danablair
November 16, 2010
well said! This is actually the focus of my blog, and you’ve hit on a lot of the points I try to make. Thanks for sharing! See you on the other side, in a few years 🙂
34
November 16, 2010
Nice list. Boy do I wish I could relive my 20s. I’m 34 and not exactly looking forward to 35.
20-something
November 16, 2010
I love this! I have been struggling as an unemployed 20-something (and about to turn 24) I am already freaking out about getting older! Thank you for putting some things in perspective for me 🙂
ChaseK8
November 16, 2010
Great post, with my 28th birthday just around the corner I am feeling the same way…but one note, when you said you can’t help anyone you were wrong, by helping yourself and tightening the bonds in your family you are helping others in a greater way than you will ever know!!! 🙂 All the best to you in your next chapter of life!!!!
enchantmentmemoirs
November 16, 2010
Loving your analytical take on life. Think I may do one of these myself- one now as a sixteen year old and one in 2 years time.
Suman
November 16, 2010
Amazing post…………
U should be so proud of how much you have accomplished in your 20’s….
Your post makes me stop and think about the transition from 20 to 30 that I will also have to make in a couple of months…….
I especially like the part about needing God and am glad you found a stable, loyal guy who really likes you…..
Keep writing…….u have a gift….
mandkblog
November 16, 2010
It’s like we live parallel lives some thousand km away….you are not alone, there are others in the same place, feeling exactly the same way! enjoy life to the full! that’s what I try to do!
Ava Aston's Muckery
November 16, 2010
It’s funny how when we are younger like 15, 16 and 17 we want to be older. Then as we have been in our 20’s for about 10 years many of us want to be younger again.
Could it be as humans we are just never satisfied?
Thanks for sharing your take on turning 30.
Nlessings,
Ava
xox
Jenny
November 16, 2010
OK, I’ll be the token Old Person who laughs at this—thought for sure someone would have commented along these lines already, but not so. Born in 1952 (oh, horrors!)—still doing crazy things (my hobby is bushwhacking in the mountains)—life does seem to go on, somehow.
brucetheeconomist
November 16, 2010
I really like your point 2, speaking as someone approaching 60 fater than I like to think. I think you’ve got insights that I didn’t have when I was as young as you are, so kudos to you.
Rob
November 16, 2010
Love it. Great post.
M.Mohamed
November 16, 2010
I really liked this post. I am turning 20 in less than 45 minutes and for an odd reason there has been a dark cloud following me the whole day. Guess our teenage years have to stop sometime eh?
Maybe, I should just brace myself! Thanks for sharing.
colin leslie beadon
November 16, 2010
Well I’m 75, and have been through all the traumas you have been facing. Look, really,…. life is just not such a big deal.
Just be sensible, just be truthful, throw everything into what ever work you do and love, go out of your way to help people as much as you can, and Karma will do the rest, I promise. I promise !!!!. Love the natural world and its animals, and do what you can to defend nature. Even in this, Karma will be forever on your side.
This is something life has slowly divulged to me, in the places I have lived, and the people and animals I have loved.
Leanne
November 16, 2010
I am 19 and meeting the 20’s with fear and anticipation
every decade brings amazing opportunities and feats that we will remember forever
It is great that you are so optimistic about the future – you should be!!
Please have a little look at my blog :):)
http://futureartscene.wordpress.com/
melissamilazzo
November 16, 2010
Point 7 is especially good! I didn’t start dating my husband until I was 30 (we were friends for many years before that) and we didn’t marry until last year, when I was 32. He is not flashy, but he is a kind, stable, moral, GOOD man. The type of man I may not have even considered dating when I was in my 20s.
Thank you for a post that celebrates the wisdom that comes with being a grown woman.
Debasis
November 16, 2010
Accidentally (almost) clicked on this link from WordPress. Liked the post. I know exactly what they mean even if I am 42 now 🙂 I have gone many interesting phases in my life which does not resemble me now in time and place. As they say, enjoy everyday as your last; one day you will be right!
BTW, there is no god even if it does not matter to you. Also it was interesting that you picked a male name instead of a girlie name. But, again, what is in a name?
arpitadilly
November 16, 2010
Very well written blog can completely relate to it….congrats on being freshly pressed 🙂
bunni
November 16, 2010
I am also coming to terms with my coming of age, but I am 23 and I love every passing day. My latest post concerns this, you should check it out if you’d like. I really enjoyed this.
bunni (^_^)
thegeeman
November 16, 2010
You ain’t seen notjing yet. I am 58 years old. My wife tells me I still have energy of 20 year old. It all goes by too fast. Life is great. Great post.
Laura
November 16, 2010
This is simple, beautiful and honest. As a woman working my way through my twenties, I really appreciate your refreshing voice. Thank you!
busyman1918
November 16, 2010
very well written posts and I can tell you were expressing everything you have felt. I have to say I am in my 20’s now and feel like an old man after graduating from college everything had changed…..i dont drink and certainly if i eat to much I can tell maybe I am aging a lot quicker than you but this post really made me think about life and where would I be several years from now……thanks
Mimi
November 16, 2010
This couldn’t have come at a more appropriate time: I just turned 20 yesterday! I
Much of what you said rings true with me. I know life will change — maybe even be unrecognizable — in 10 years. But, I’m willing to embrace it!
shoubiaode
November 16, 2010
Good post! Just like it! ^_^
popscure
November 16, 2010
this was a nice, interesting and genuine post. thank you.
prefab
November 16, 2010
New age, better life.
Greate post.
Jess
November 16, 2010
Brilliant! Smart way to approach an “age-old” topic. 🙂 I’m only three months away from the other side, just recently married, can’t eat or drink like I used to, etc., etc.
Very relatable and written beautifully — the perfect combo of humor and honesty.
happyfamilytravels
November 16, 2010
It just keeps getting better…wait til u try and eat a slice of pizza in ur forties!!! 🙂
yves
November 16, 2010
loved this post. Im 30 and i can totally relate. And yes, “we dont need religion, but we do need God”….Love that line! Cheers!
melaniekristy
November 16, 2010
I like this post a lot. I just turned 26 and I find myself thinking about a lot of things that you posted and how they fit into my general concept of life.
Congrats on making it to “Freshly Pressed”!!!!
Nick
November 16, 2010
I really enjoyed reading this post. I, as well, am in the last year of my 20s and can understand a lot of what you wrote. Unlike many, my body has not changed …at all. Well, that isn’t true. I’m more fit than ever, just haven’t been able to gain much weight, in which I’m incredibly fortunate.
As for # 7, I hope you’re wrong. I consider myself a romantic (or close to one, at least). Granted, I’ve had trouble with girlfriends, but again, like you said, when we’re young we have a distorted perception of love. Maybe mine remains distorted.
I have to say, though, at 29, I don’t believe I’ve ever had more control of my life. Of course I don’t have half of things figured out, but I’ve never been as content as I am now. Playing hockey, working around cars, escaping in my art, and keeping my good friends close have helped! There is something I continue to chase though, and I can’t pinpoint what it is…
jesswords10
November 16, 2010
lovely introspective post. I’m 25 and just started up my first blog to do my own “midlife” happiness project. It’s interesting to look back and see what choices you made in your career change you. You find out what you love and what you miss. And I identify with you about friendships. Many old friends have moved away and moved on, but the ones that remain are a beautiful thing and best gift in life. Looking forward to another post.
ledzupprulz
November 16, 2010
Lovely to read . i understand how it feels when we are hit unless like before.
believe me, i read it twicee 🙂
Faraz
rtcrita
November 16, 2010
Truly enjoyed reading this! I had a lot of friends that were older than me when I was in my late teens and early 20’s also. My ex-husband was 10 years older than myself, so all of his friends (who became my friends, too) were also older than me. I had more fun at his 20 year reunion than my 10 year reunion–which came the same summer. I met him when I was almost 21 and we spent 12 years together.
You seem to have caught on to what it’s all about at a young enough age to really be able to get some goodness out of the rest of your life. Life is constantly changing and we are always growing up. We still have fun–just different kinds of it. Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!
thefirst46
November 16, 2010
I’m also on the downward slope to 30. Whenever I get a little weirder out by the fact that I’m an Adult, I think (and sometimes track) back to my old journals from my late teens and early 20s. Then I shudder with relief. The older I get, the more certain I get about my life’s purpose and who I am meant to be. And that’s worth a few extra candles on my cupcake.
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November 16, 2010
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Tyka Ndutyke
November 16, 2010
“I still don’t feel old or my age or like time is running out.”
same thing here! anyway, i love this post. it makes me laugh and think, both in the same time. congrats on the FP. will visit this blog regularly, inshaallah 🙂
Teri
November 16, 2010
Great post…I am in my mid-thirties, I still love the romantic morons.
http://yourlifesentence.wordpress.com/
noothergods
November 16, 2010
Heh, yup, I’m right there with you, though I have yet to meet a lady willing to take me. Life is all about change though and we all do our best.
https://lanternhollow.wordpress.com/
Sabera
November 16, 2010
This was one post I really enjoyed reading. I’m Indian too and just turned 28. So much of what you’ve written about resonates with me. I’m not sure I’m ready for my 30’s.
littleexplorer
November 16, 2010
I guess I’m still at the ‘other end of the 20s’…and I’m still the one who has the older friends!
But sometimes, I forget I’m actually younger than them and I identify myself with their mentality and perspective.
I think age doesn’t matter as much as intelligence and experience. You can be 23, but have more experiences, good or bad, than a 33 year old – so it all depends on what path in life you’ve been through.
http://littleexplorer.wordpress.com/
mybusinessaddiction
November 16, 2010
Really, really awesome post. Wow, I’m speechless and almost drawn to tears. I’m almost the same age as you but I’m marvelled by your wisdom. Congrats on being freshly pressed.
colin leslie beadon
November 16, 2010
Omar Khayyam says:
Up from Earth’s Centre through the Sevenths Gate
I rose, and on the Throne of Saturn sate,
And many Knots unravel’d by the Road;
But not the Knot of Human Death and fate.
If you read Khayyam’s famous Rubaiyat, you’ll understand he had a great time, loved life and love. That is all you really want, or really need.
And when Thyself with shining foot shall pass
Among the Guests Star-scatter’d on the grass
And in they joyous Errand reach the Spot
Where I made one—-turn down and empty glass.
Ankur Gupta
November 16, 2010
Great writeup .. always refreshing to read ur blog … 🙂 …
Jolin J
November 16, 2010
Beautifully penned. Since I passed this phase just a few months ago I could totally relate to this Blog.
Snehal
November 16, 2010
Hey Ekta,
I so love ur posts and always look forward to new ones. U put ur thoughts together so well, I am 29 too and u made me think of my 20s as well. I can always connect with what u write. I can’t beleive that i have met u just once – that too more than three years ago – yet i feel u r a very close freind, U r a wonderful person and it reflects in ur writing. And i feel inspired to write because of u.
Love,
Snehal.
healthopeverything
November 16, 2010
Loved this post! Congrats on getting married! I know you will have an amazing life ahead of you!
Jina
November 16, 2010
I wish I would realize half of this with so much conviction when Im 50 atleast.:).Good job gurl!!
As always, a delight to read you!
dylancrazy08
November 16, 2010
I totally identify with this post!! I am totally there.
Neil
November 16, 2010
Awesome Post as Always, Ekta!! 🙂
pritha
November 16, 2010
very candid.thats what made it so endearing.beautiful writing:)
bertbad
November 16, 2010
The 20’s I have just started, but already I like them. Not being in school anymore, I can not have to deal with bullies anymore. I can avoid places where they are likely to be, and I can have a website to express my own opinions and with tools like Twitter I can find friends that even when we don’t agree can be adult and nice. If I wanted, I don’t even have to leave my house. I can get delivery on food and I can order all my needs online at e-stores. It’s really such a great time to be different!
bitofabelly81
November 16, 2010
Went by fast didn’t it?? I will also be 30 next year…great post!
wiz
November 16, 2010
I enjoyed your post ! And I can tell you a really wonderful thing from the signpost of 41 : getting older is beautiful … notice I said “older” … “age” is mostly marketing meant to make us feel dissatisfied with how old we are so that we’ll spend the rest of our lives and money trying not to “age” (the most tragic thing in the world is to watch a person who is 50 pretend they are 20) … The key is to Love (especially those you don’t know), be open and intellectually curious always, humble , and walk alot (alot 🙂 … and you’ll still get older (beautifully, I might add), but you’ll never age (what is “old” anyway ? “Old is when you die and no one is surprised.. haha) … God Bless …
arevikd
November 16, 2010
Thanks for sharing! As I read this post i recognized myself, the only difference is that I kept all my thoughts in my mind. I think that these are the points we all come through in our lives but it’s not everyone that realizes that. Thank you and best regards from Kiev, the foggy (weirdly – all night and all day) capital city of Ukraine 🙂
Marisol
November 16, 2010
I loved it!
The Learning Wife
November 16, 2010
I saw this post because of your Freshly Pressed fame, and I have to say this is the perfect post as an introduction to your blog. This particular post holds something that everyone can relate to in most any stage in their life. I do remember being 21 and thinking I’m invincible, can drink as much as I want, and I have all the time in the world for beauty, love, and career. Compared to now, life has changed tremendously. Your post demonstrates maturity and your open arms waiting to embrace wisdom. Congratulations on your engagement, and being Freshly Pressed!
Ginny
November 16, 2010
Loved this one…. Not sure if i have told u before…. I’m a big fan 🙂 wish u a lot of goodness!!
zhaodonglei
November 16, 2010
Thank you for sharing and good luck to your 30s.
carleasingmadesimpleuk
November 16, 2010
Nice piece! I’m in the same age bracket as you and really thank GOD you discovered GOD through Roberto.
Roberto
November 16, 2010
Well written! Now that you have so many new readers, you need to keep em coming!
Henri
November 18, 2010
Hi Everyone,
Thank you so much for taking the time out and reading my blog post and taking out the time to comment on it. I do hope you stop by more often. In return, I will try to write more thought-provoking and interesting things. I have gone through some of your blogs too and I must say that there’s a lot of good blogs out there.
Hope to keep in touch.
Love,
Henri.
Shashank
November 18, 2010
I did read it the day you made the first announcement but the one which got a amazing response deserves a re-read along with a comment!!
Very neatly written, almost summarizes life at 30+/- 2 (by doing that +/- thing, I got myself included).
It deserved the response it got!! Here is my thoughts point by point, without any disagreements, mostly:
1) You are very well protected if you have older friends. I attribute a lot of positive changes in my character due to older friends. Yes, being with younger ones is always fun because they don’t worry about too many things around.
2) I have to share something with you on this one.
3) I hope it’s not a crime to say: I applaud you for that.
4) 🙂
5) Point no. 2 and 5 response, together: These (and 9) are the best points in the whole write-ups. If you get some time, for point2 and 5, just check my recent blog on ‘notes’ on Facebook. I firmly believe in what you wrote… be it job, self-change or be it relationship with family.
Although I m sure I m much behind you on point no.2 but I am learning.
6) and 7) 🙂
8) I agree in principle.
9) It has taken me a long time to accept that but if there is one absolute truth of life, this point is one of those.
10) Same here, but I am not enjoying it. Let’s see… what happens…
Do visit this page, few months after you become a parent .. you will have much more to write..! 🙂 Looking forward to that write-up.
....the little thread of thoughts
November 20, 2010
Happy b’day, I must say first. Older true, but sounds like you had a lot of fun along the way. guess, the 30’s would pave for a more mature outlook; that’s what my sister goes on and on about anyways !!!
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November 22, 2010
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Corie Sattazahn
December 12, 2010
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Devina
May 22, 2013
I thought i was the only one out here having these strange realizations- and i mean all ten of them! When i turned 30 this year- every single one of these things were running through my mind- good to know i’m not alone:-)
Ilana Williams
September 16, 2017
I loved this. Especially the part about learning to love yourself. Your job is not your identity. I struggled with this for many years and it finally gave me the courage to go through an enormous career shift. Self love is the most important. You can’t help others if you are in a negative space. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Thank you for your honestly (I realize this was several years ago. I can’t wait to read more of your work!)